When he just isn’t good enough…

When he just isn’t good enough…

When he just isn’t good enough…

We have all been there, done that.

It’s either you, or one of your friends. They either tell you when it’s happening and you ignore it, or they don’t when they should have.

It is 12 months later and you are like… “What the hell??? Why didn’t you tell me this was going nowhere?”

Like you would have listened anyway.

You wouldn’t have.

I have a friend that is dating someone I know…it’s awkward to me, because I know that she deserves more.

Not that there is anything wrong with him…

She just deserves better.

She deserves awesome.

I am not going to say he is not awesome on someone’s level, it’s just not on her level.

Do you see what I mean?

That is the problem with dating. Some guys are eager out of the gate…

Attentive, affectionate, caring.

And then, once you are reeled in. Nothing.

It all freaking stops.

And you are fucked.

I just want her to make sure, to feel it out…I told her, no sex. Hahahaha…I am the best friend ever. But seriously, she will thank me, and if he ever finds out, he will kill me.

I don’t care, I am always on the girls side, don’t ever doubt that part.

I want to feel like I have her back, when I actually  just feel like a cow. Because she thought it was awesome, she thought he was a winner, and today I might have blown that for her. I might have given her doubt.

I want to feel guilty about it, but I kind of don’t. Which sucks more.

The only thing I can think is…at this age, we don’t have time to waste, we don’t have time to give away when it isn’t going to be in our better interest. When the recipient isn’t worthy.

Nancy will read this and shake her head. This has been her with me. For years. I never listened to her either. Well I have, I have sat down, looked her in the eye, and listened to what she said and done it anyways. She was always right.

In the end.

Don’t be the prize that they win, don’t be the one who settles for less because you don’t think you will ever find more.

More is out there. It is harder to find and might be disguised a little bit, but it’s out there, looking for you too.

Listen to your heart, listen to your gut…decide if the fight is worth the end result.

Life is short and we are getting old, don’t pass up the fabulous for the just okay.

And mostly, just be happy. However that comes. Whatever that involves. Whoever you are with.

Happy Thursday loves xox

6 thoughts on “When he just isn’t good enough…

  1. dan

    well i tried to be my best to be with her.
    she told me she want’s to be an escort. i couldn’t deal with that. i tried to explain her that we shall make the money otherwise. she said no. she cheated on me, and when she finally broke with me, she told me that we shouldn’t speak anymore.
    i loved her. i would have given my soul that she could be ok.
    and it didn’t work. the only thing this relationship brought me is just a feeling of emptiness.
    now i just feel empty.
    i feel like i don’t deserve anything better. actually, i don’t deserve anything.
    I’m passing through some of the hardest times in my life and i feel alone and empty.
    great end, no?
    now i want to never love again. to have my heart petrified again. i don’t care anymore.
    so what can i say? sometimes even fighting for the person you feel that is right is not enough….

    1. The Redneck Princess Post author

      Dan…I know that you can’t see it now, but seriously…you are better off without her, and there WILL be someone new that will love you the way you need to be loved. Don’t give up…realize that everything happens for a reason even though sometimes it feels like shit. The Universe is sending you off in a better direction. Grieve your loss, feel the pain, but don’t let it change your spirit or your faith in love. You do deserve better…

  2. Megan

    Ummm… Did you write this post about me or for me?! I believe I am yet again where Nancy is… The fella making everything perfect, getting me hooked then…. NOTHING. It’s the same the thing has happened to me with pretty much every guy I’ve dated in the last 4 years. I’m ready for a break. I’m ready for the one that doesn’t slam on the breaks… Really I am.

  3. Linda Hamonou

    This post is awesome. I know the feeling. You just stick around hoping that it’s all going to gone back but it never does. Before you know it you’re just the girl sitting in the corner while he is having fun, you’re carving for support and attention.
    I’m happy that I could find better and I hope all women will.

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